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Evolving | Time cannot erase the many lessons we share. Love is eternal. | HartHaiku.com

Evolving | Your soul mates

The term “soul mate” is often thought of solely as fitting the ideal of romantic love. That is, finding that one perfect person that will “complete us”, and with whom we live “happily ever after”. We believe life will be smooth and comfy and blissful, if only we could meet that magic person.

But wait! Your Perfect Soul Mate may not feel perfect

Consider for a moment that your ideal soul mate(s) may rather be people who push you to your most and best soul growth. And that may be uncomfortable. And it may not feel perfect. Too often in our society we are encouraged to believe that comfort = happiness.

But, consider this important equation: discomfort = growth. Personally, my view of life is that growth = happiness in the long run. (See my related post, Germinate: Grow your soul) After all, why did we come here? It was not just to accumulate the best stuff and take up space!

Our feelings of connection to familiar souls

We each have various close soul connections, and those relationships may be ones we are exploring in other lifetimes too. Consider that may be why we resonate immediately with those people when we meet. We are inexplicably drawn to them. They feel familiar to us from the get-go.

For me, even as a child and attending a Christian church, it has never made sense that we do all of our learning in one lifetime. How could we ever hope to evolve spiritually within that scenario?

If you would like to read further about soul mates, this article is a good start:

How Relationship Experts Define the Word “Soulmate’

Inspirational Quotes:

“Our universe grants every soul a twin – a reflection of themselves -the kindred spirit – And no matter where they are or how far away they are from each other- even if they are in different dimensions, they will always find one another. This is destiny; this is love.” ~ Julie Dillon

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.” ~ Elizabeth Gilbert

“I don’t know how you are so familiar to me – or why it feels less like I am getting to know you and more as though I am remembering who you are. How every smile, every whisper brings me closer to the impossible conclusion that I have known you before, I have loved you before—in another time, a different place, some other existence.” ~ Lang Leav

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Germinate | Grow your soul

We have all experienced discouragement, sometimes to despair. These feelings are part of life. Without obstacles and disappointments, our souls would not learn and grow. When I look back on my own difficult challenges, I would not want to do them over. But when I evaluate the growth in myself, it is tremendous. I am grateful for those soul lessons. I am stronger because of them.

When we are struggling in darkness, it can be difficult to see light. Other people can extend a loving hand, either with a different perspective, or, hands-on assistance. But in the end, we must own our inner journey. It is ours, and it is we who develop the fortitude and mindset to deal with whatever life throws at us.

During one particularly tough time for me, focusing on gratitude helped tremendously. That’s right! Really seeing and acknowledging all of the blessings, big and small, that surrounded me. And I built on that. It created a positive mindset, in which I could then conceive of hope and possibilities and solutions.

Light begets light, and that which we focus on expands.

Here is a good article about how seemingly small, simple actions can bring us closer to happiness: 10 Simple Ways to Find Happiness

Inspirational Quotes:

“If seeds despaired in their darkest hours, they would never rise to enjoy their brightest days.” ~ Matshona Dhliwayo

“Challenges are part of life. Overcoming them makes you a stronger person.”  ~ Lailah Gifty Akita

“A quick way to overcome your despair… is to go out and help someone else overcome theirs!” ~ Timothy Pina

“Don’t let fear conquer you.” ~ Lailah Gifty Akita

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In Flow | The stream does not heed the hard sharp gashing boulder. It glides smoothly round. | HartHaiku.com

In Flow | Navigate your life

Fluidity: The ability to flow easily. | The characteristic of elegance or grace. | The state of being unsettled or unstable.

When we are in touch with who we really are and our purpose for being here, we begin to flow effortlessly within it. Our head bashing comes from resistance, from listening too much to others who want to mold us into their idea of being. The river cares not for the opinion of others. It is river.

When we flow, we enter a state of elegance and grace. Labels, material things, all the incidental clutter falls away. We discover that we are elegant, just as we are. And as the river does, we move around and through, in a state of grace, smoothing roughness along our path.

And when we embrace change (that which is unsettled and unstable), we move towards new vistas, experiences, states of being. Growth does not occur within stability. River desires that which facilitates its flow in and towards newness.

Be fluid and in flow, like the river.

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Double-edged | Victory wraps you like a warm fuzzy blanket. Now where's the challenge? | HartHaiku.com

Double-edged | Your changes

Golden nuggets of wisdom. Sometimes they come to us in small conversations that at the time seem inconsequential. Then later on a light bulb goes on and we realize “Yes!”

Embracing change & its challenges

One such nugget came from my father years ago. It was about change. He said to me, “Susan, adaptability to change is absolutely crucial to succeeding in life. It is pointless to resist it. Learn to not only adapt to it, but also welcome it. There is growth in change.”

Down the road I sold everything I owned, and my partner and I set out to do some world travel. I don’t think he expected that. But I will tell you, it has been an extreme exercise in embracing change.

Challenges are where the growth awaits

Change presents new challenges for us. But it seems that in Western society we value comfort and safety above all else. It is what we are programmed to yearn for and work towards. Then what happens when we have all the material comforts that our hearts desired? We’re bored, and usually on to buying the next new toy to cover our soul’s discontent.

Do not get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with achieving some comfort in life. I do not believe we are born for suffering and hardship. But, I would suggest that when we’ve achieved our comfort zone, it’s time to look for a new experience to challenge us. That’s where the growth of our souls exists.

Challenge v.s. comfort. It’s a razor’s edge, a double-edged sword.

This is a very good article from Lifehack about change, and why it’s actually good for us:
How the chaos in your life builds character

Inspirational Quotes:

“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.” ~ Helen Keller, The Open Door

“If the world were merely seductive, that would be easy. If it were merely challenging, that would be no problem. But I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve the world and a desire to enjoy the world. This makes it hard to plan the day.” ~ E.B. White

“When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not yet ready. The challenge will not wait. Life does not look back. A week is more than enough time for us to decide whether or not to accept our destiny.” ~ Paulo Coelho

“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.” ~ Martin Luther King Jr.

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Intention or Wish? | A wish is a wisp, an elusive piece of smoke. Intention creates. | HartHaiku.com

Intention or Wish? | Decide

We’re almost halfway through 2019. How are your New Year’s resolutions going? (Wait! Is that a multitude of groans I’m hearing from afar?) Yes, many of us make them, and almost all of us break them. Why, you may ask? Is it that mostly we lack true resolve? Are our resolutions simply too big and we give up early? Some of that may be going on, but the real essence of it may be the difference between wishing and intending.

“Wishing”: To feel or express a strong desire or hope.
“Intending”: To have a plan or course of action as one’s purpose.

See the difference here?

A wish is an idea or vision you have in your mind, attached to a hope that somehow a genie in a bottle, a fairly godmother, or some other external power is somehow magically going to deliver it.

An intention, on the other hand, combines that same desire with a solid plan. And, YOU make it happen! You have the power, with your creative mind and your intentional action. The catch is, this requires self-discipline (focus and commitment) and self-love (the belief you deserve it), combined with some good old-fashioned elbow grease.

So, rewind to January 1st. Did you set an intention, or simply make a wish? There’s still time…

In any moment,
you can change the path you’re on.
“New Year” is always.

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Possibilities | Explore the limits that your heart and mind allow. Now soar beyond them. | HartHaiku.com

Possibilities | The infinite you

Your potentiality may be a good subject for Monday morning. Why, you say? Well, did you just drag yourself to a job that you hate in order to pay the rent and get by? Or, did you get up today with excitement, looking forward to work that fulfills you and gives you joy?

I know. This is a big thought, and if your answer is “I dragged myself to…”, it can be a depressing one. But consider this: Waking up and honestly addressing what may be making you unhappy is the first important step to changing it. It’s just too easy to gloss it over, or numb it with small pleasures.

This article outlines six factors that require just a little effort and are likely to increase your happiness quotient. If you don’t want to read the whole article, scroll to the bottom: The formula for a happy life… 

Big changes require baby steps. And the good feeling you get from a small change grows into desire to do more. It’s the ripple effect.

The sky is not the limit. You are full of INFINITE possibilities. Now, isn’t that a great thought for a Monday morning?

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